Have you ever wondered what should I do to become an creative, practical, logical, strong, leading and ethical person? Here is the key "Never agree with your elders" or "Always argue with your elders" (read teachers and parents). Strange? I know it's strange, but let me tell you why?
1. Creative Thinking:
When you simply nod whatever your elders you are killing your creative thinking capabilities. You start thinking out of the box when you have to defend your opinions. If you simply agree with your elders, you don't have a opinion at all, you are just a "Kole Basava".
2. Reality:
Any grown up can agree that reality bites, so at some point of the time in your life, you are going to be bitten by reality, more you postpone difficult it gets to adapt. Come out of your groove, get bitten as early as possible and adapt to realities and lead the race. Todays life is not only about buying most fancied gadget first, it's about winning the wast competition around. So get prepared early.
3. Comfort Zone:
Till and then you listen to your elders they will create a comfort zone around you. They will make sure you always remain in comfort zone as far as they can. Do you think that is the better way to lead the life? You gotta lazy bottom! Soon or later your elders will loose the capabilities to maintain the comfort zone around you or you will grow so big that this small comfort starts irritating you. And you know, if you are living in comfort zone, your learning nothing, soon you will become nothing. Get out of it, experience the world first hand. Be a free bird.
4. Future Safe:
Believe me, you are smarter than your elders. They are the versions brought to this world hundreds are years back. And you want to wear the their stinking clothes today? Never do that, you will look foolish. I know you get it without any cost, but they are not for you. Thats not the way to win the race. It's your race, you can win or loose, but do it in your style.
5. Be a King not a Slave:
When you are too small a kid, elders will scare you by beating or scolding. This cannot last forever. They will try to bend you only when they know they are capable of doing it without breaking your back. Faster you show the resistance better the results. If you used to live like a Slave for 20 years, how you can be the better King in future. If you wish to be a King, stop being Slave. Another feather on the cap! Nobody wish to leave the throne for you. If you parents get used to be Kings they expect the same even when they are not capable of being one. When you forcefully bring them down, thats where most family drama starts.
6. Ladies Special:
This applies to normal families where female children fear there parents, elders and agree whatever they say. I know deep inside you are waiting to get out it and have your own life when you are got married. Here is the twist madam! In 90% of the cases even your hubby would have been come from the same excitement for ruling the world (or family at least). So one throne, two heirs. Thats not gonna work, whether it's being a daughter or sister or wife or mother, live your life and let others live.
7. Let you kids to be Kids:
It's very frustrating to be a pet for others. Say for first 20 years your were your elders pet. Where that years long frustration will go? It goes no where, just get accumulated inside you, and waits to showoff when you have your pets. For heavens sake, let your kids enjoy there life, don't spoil their life, just because you didn't enjoy yours.
@ Ravi,
ReplyDeleteWell written from youngsters point of view,i agree with you on certain aspects and will share my views on the aspects i disagree after you write a blog from elders point of view.
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@ Ravi
ReplyDeleteyup something are very much true but we have to look into other face of coin too when the wheel is already invented y to waste to waste time in reinvent i meant this for suggestion of elder they already have experienced that for this action this would be result in 99 cases out 100 y to waste time to experiment again and say wheel is round agian just make use of invented wheel and move the life in a better way
accpet suggestion is fine following every word may be the above is right